Tea with Abi ☕

“I am enough”- Salsa (By Maxine Benny) Being average is something that I’ve internally been struggling with for the longest time. Am I doing enough? What would they think about me doing this? Do they see the progress I’m making?? These are just some of the questions that I’ve asked myself on a daily basis. Am I really stuck, or am I stuck on the mindset that they are constantly looking for a reason to bring me down or criticize the steps that I take when I’m the only one who knows about the benchmarks that have been set. A few years down the line and the “they” that I’ve been referring to, has been me. I’ve unconsciously placed pressure on myself. Pressure that was supposedly outside pressure which eventually led to internal struggles. We judge ourselves so harshly when in reality no one has ALL of their shit together. We’re all trying to get from one point to the other without it appearing to be a struggle. We try our best to make our movements appear seamless. For me, nothi

  The irony of trusting men. Women of all ages and races are being killed, raped and/or sexually assaulted every minute of every day, at the hands of men. These women are our mothers, our sisters, our girlfriends. They are us. We are them. We are living in fear. Our fears have evolved from being afraid of the dark as little girls, to being afraid of our fellow men . This is the reality for women. And for some reason this reality resonates with me now more than ever. Was I oblivious to it all before? Did I not realize the gravity of the situation? Probably, but that is a cup of tea for another day. Women, especially young women, must think twice before doing daily errands - does the Uyinene post office story come to mind? Don’t even think about going to the gym alone at night. Too often we are told to be careful. It has reached the point where we have to carry pepper spray as you would carry your keys.   We have to change our daily routines to avoid being in the spot. As someone w