Gold-diggers

Contrary to popular belief, there’s nothing noble about dating a stingy man. We have previously been socialized to think that enduring hardships and making sacrifices (including your own needs & wants) as a woman is the way to go, because it was what earned you respect in communities. This is evident in the relationships of our grandparents and even our parents. And I think most of us can attest that majority of those relationships have underlying issues.

 

There is a popular perception that wealthy men are dangerous to be with. In two ways: they are more likely to abuse you or are more likely to cheat. And while that may be the case in some people’s relationships, I think that a less wealthy man can also be abusive, cheating and even controlling. What I am trying to say is that all men are capable of harm. I think people should be able to date whoever they want to, as long as it is safe for them, and they are happy.

 

As I’ve previously written in one of my other blogs, money is definitely a power tool that can be used to objectify women, but for some it is also a gateway to freedom and/or a way of creating a secure life, which if you take into consideration the current state of our economy, is essential.

 

You’re not better for securing a “rich man”, and simultaneously you’re not bad for securing a rich man. We can all get a rich man. It’s all about preference and choice. And the agency to make that choice is something we should all have. Speaking of choice and agency, it is often assumed that women who go for men with money do it because they have no choice. But I want you to ditch that narrative, because the very fact that she is with that man, is in itself a choice.

 

Wanting a partner that can provide for you does not take away your feminist values and should not equate to gender inequality.

 

The notion that women who go for men with money are in transactional relationships is true. Because all relationships are transactional. Whether you go for someone who is good looking because you want to have cute babies, or you date someone who makes you look good to your parents. We generally date because we want something out of the relationship; love, security, support, sex or diamond rings.

 

I am not saying that to enjoy the soft life one should become a Stepford wife, but what I am saying is that we should instead liberate women who seek to enjoy a life that for them is a life free of hardships. With that said, we as women should still aspire to climb the ladder of personal ambition and continue to break glass ceilings.