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Bananas, Bread & BBQ: My food adventures in Korea

I’ve always had a weird relationship with food. For me, eating has always been more about routine rather than adventure, so I don’t explore much with food. I keep it simple—so simple that I can order from the kids’ menu. Fine dining? Definitely not for me On one of my first weekends in Korea, I decided to try Korean BBQ (KBBQ). My TikTok had been flooded with videos of it, and it actually looked appealing, even for someone like me. I thought, “Well, this isn’t very different from a braai—tjoppies op die kole.” To my surprise, it was very different. From cutting the meat into small pieces with scissors to the endless sides that came with it, the experience was unique. I indulged and embraced it, but let’s just say my stomach didn’t—later that evening, I paid the price. Safe to say, my stomach needed some time to adjust to Korean flavours. Since then, I haven’t explored too much more with local cuisine. For me, Korean food is definitely an acquired taste. One thing you notice quickly i...
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My casual observations on how people dress in Korea

 My casual observations on how people dress in Korea Dressing in Korea is its own language, and as a foreigner, I’ve been learning it one outfit at a time. Here are some of my honest, slightly chaotic observations about how people dress here. And how I’ve had to adjust. As a free-the-tits girly, I’ve had to learn to wear a bra in Korea. Back home, if I wasn’t at work, church, or somewhere formal, I wouldn’t bother. I’d often go out with my nipples showing through my shirt. Sometimes people would look at me, but it didn’t feel weird — probably because I felt comfortable enough, or because the people around me looked like me. Plus, freeing-the-tits was becoming more popular. But in Korea, seeing nipples through a shirt is basically unheard of. Since I already look very different from most people around me (physically), I figured I didn’t need any extra attention. So, wearing a bra felt like the easier option- I don’t need people staring at me because of my tits peeking through my top...
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Gold-diggers

Contrary to popular belief, there’s nothing noble about dating a stingy man. We have previously been socialized to think that enduring hardships and making sacrifices (including your own needs & wants) as a woman is the way to go, because it was what earned you respect in communities. This is evident in the relationships of our grandparents and even our parents. And I think most of us can attest that majority of those relationships have underlying issues.   There is a popular perception that wealthy men are dangerous to be with. In two ways: they are more likely to abuse you or are more likely to cheat. And while that may be the case in some people’s relationships, I think that a less wealthy man can also be abusive, cheating and even controlling. What I am trying to say is that all men are capable of harm. I think people should be able to date whoever they want to, as long as it is safe for them, and they are happy.   As I’ve previously written in one of my othe...
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Gift-giving

Gift-giving Every Christmas, birthday, anniversary or any other special occasion we carefully choose and offer gifts to our loved ones. Most times its something that we do naturally and often forget about the deeper meanings and implications that comes with it. A gift is defined as something material or immaterial, voluntarily given to a person or group. But as much as it is voluntarily, and given without the expectation of recompense, we (or at least I) often get that niggling sense of obligation to return the gesture. Gifting is a practice that has been with us since the beginning of human civilization but seems to be at a heightened peak these days. It plays a significant role in social interactions as it offers a meaningful way for people to foster bonds and relationships. As such, a lot of planning and thought goes into it.   In the aspect of gifts being used to build or foster relationships, it goes without saying that it requires some form of reciprocation. The gift ...
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Marriage and the perfect age for it

Marriage  and the perfect age for it Marriage is  the legal recognition of a union between two people and   is often what people in  committed  relationships strive for. It symbolizes  an  “until death do us part”  kind of love  and is a chance at happily ever after that people take despite the odds being against it.   As expected , a  lot of thought and planning goes into marriage. You consider your significant other’s beliefs, values,  and even  how bad their snoring is (jokes). It is typically normal that when people reach a certain age,  family  and friends start asking questions about marriage.  They annoying ly   emphasize  the importance of getting married by putting pressure on us to start taking this step seriously.  And very often  they  share their opinions and views on why or why not  we  should get married .  W hile marriage is the ultimate union of two pe...
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Does money buy happiness?

  Does money buy happiness? Many people take the stance that money can’t buy happiness. And they’re not wrong, because we’ve all been exposed to people who are rich and miserable. This is especially common in movies or fiction writing- the rich individual who sits alone in their fancy home that yearns for some sort of happiness. And of course, rich people also have problems. Their problems might be different and might be what is known as “nice life problems”. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not implying that rich people do not have “real life problems”. While money might separate us materially, it does not unevenly distribute trauma or emotional pain. A rich mother losing a child will experience the same pain that a poor mother would experience. Having money could however make the process of losing a loved one easier, in the sense that it enables the family to afford the necessary resources to deal with the death for example.   I believe that a lack of money creates misery. Perha...
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Entitlement and Intelligence

  Entitlement and Intelligence Intelligence plays an important role in our day-to-day activities. It determines the type of work we do, the spaces we occupy, how people perceive us and even how we interact with others. Intelligent people have superior cognitive abilities that enables them to complete tasks more efficiently, whereas less intelligent people need to work a bit harder in order to complete the same tasks. This is the neural system’s innate ability and there is nothing that we as humans can do to change this, hence we say you are born with it . Now while this is true, there are also people who are hardworking and just as smart, but intelligence seems to be used as a higher level of measured intellect. We give a higher compliment when we tell someone that they are intelligent as opposed to when we tell them they are hardworking. Already you can see that there is an invisible hierarchy that exists, and   that in my opinion adds to an individual’s sense of entitlemen...
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