Tea with Abi ☕

Gift-giving Every Christmas, birthday, anniversary or any other special occasion we carefully choose and offer gifts to our loved ones. Most times its something that we do naturally and often forget about the deeper meanings and implications that comes with it. A gift is defined as something material or immaterial, voluntarily given to a person or group. But as much as it is voluntarily, and given without the expectation of recompense, we (or at least I) often get that niggling sense of obligation to return the gesture. Gifting is a practice that has been with us since the beginning of human civilization but seems to be at a heightened peak these days. It plays a significant role in social interactions as it offers a meaningful way for people to foster bonds and relationships. As such, a lot of planning and thought goes into it.   In the aspect of gifts being used to build or foster relationships, it goes without saying that it requires some form of reciprocation. The gift that

Marriage  and the perfect age for it Marriage is  the legal recognition of a union between two people and   is often what people in  committed  relationships strive for. It symbolizes  an  “until death do us part”  kind of love  and is a chance at happily ever after that people take despite the odds being against it.   As expected , a  lot of thought and planning goes into marriage. You consider your significant other’s beliefs, values,  and even  how bad their snoring is (jokes). It is typically normal that when people reach a certain age,  family  and friends start asking questions about marriage.  They annoying ly   emphasize  the importance of getting married by putting pressure on us to start taking this step seriously.  And very often  they  share their opinions and views on why or why not  we  should get married .  W hile marriage is the ultimate union of two people, there are a lot of complexities   that comes with it.  People get married for different reasons  including  socie

  Does money buy happiness? Many people take the stance that money can’t buy happiness. And they’re not wrong, because we’ve all been exposed to people who are rich and miserable. This is especially common in movies or fiction writing- the rich individual who sits alone in their fancy home that yearns for some sort of happiness. And of course, rich people also have problems. Their problems might be different and might be what is known as “nice life problems”. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not implying that rich people do not have “real life problems”. While money might separate us materially, it does not unevenly distribute trauma or emotional pain. A rich mother losing a child will experience the same pain that a poor mother would experience. Having money could however make the process of losing a loved one easier, in the sense that it enables the family to afford the necessary resources to deal with the death for example.   I believe that a lack of money creates misery. Perhaps even a

  Entitlement and Intelligence Intelligence plays an important role in our day-to-day activities. It determines the type of work we do, the spaces we occupy, how people perceive us and even how we interact with others. Intelligent people have superior cognitive abilities that enables them to complete tasks more efficiently, whereas less intelligent people need to work a bit harder in order to complete the same tasks. This is the neural system’s innate ability and there is nothing that we as humans can do to change this, hence we say you are born with it . Now while this is true, there are also people who are hardworking and just as smart, but intelligence seems to be used as a higher level of measured intellect. We give a higher compliment when we tell someone that they are intelligent as opposed to when we tell them they are hardworking. Already you can see that there is an invisible hierarchy that exists, and   that in my opinion adds to an individual’s sense of entitlement.    

Coaches don’t play - they used to play.   Disclaimer: I’m not a relationship expert . I am merely sharing my  observations ,  some  of  which   you’ve   probably seen,  heard of or  experienced  for yourself . If that is the case, let this post serve as a reminder.  Love is one of the most profound  experiences  know n  to human beings. It’s the one thing we’re all capable of doing.  It exists in many forms ,  but romantic love seems to be the most sought after. Many people seek to express themselves in romantic relationships with a compatible partner . A nd for them ,  romantic relationships  compromise  one of the most meaningful aspects of life ,  and serve   as a source of deep fulfilment . As with most valued treasures in this world, we run into trouble pursuing romantic love.  The questions many of us ask ourselves are:  Why are relationships so hard today? Why do we fail every time despite trying so hard?  My own question is this:  why   do we  suck at relationships ?   I  will